Innermost Being Blog

Cozy, but not cramped

Write about your dream home.

My husband and I have owned two homes in the last thirty-one years. We plan to downsize later this year. Prior home ownership shows you what you want and what you don’t want in a home. But as anyone who has ever watched Love It or List It or House Hunters knows, couples do not always agree on the ideal home. We are no different.

Our first house, home for twenty-seven years, was a 1970s tri-level with an unfinished basement. I didn’t like having to go up and down stairs all the time. That house had a formal living room on the main level and a family room on the lower level. I don’t need two living rooms.

Our current house is a ranch style home with a completely finished basement. It was constructed in 2006, so it has the “open concept” design that is popular today. I like this style, but it isn’t on my must-have list. One of the reasons we want to move is that our house is too big for two people. I don’t like our master bedroom as much as the one in our old house because it isn’t wide enough for our bedroom furniture.

For me, a dream home isn’t just about the inside of the house; I also want a nice yard with a place to sit outside and for hubby to grill. I also like trees. Our first house had a fenced-in backyard with a covered concrete patio. I didn’t like having neighbors so close behind us. Our current house has a nice front porch and two decks in the back. We rarely use the uncovered deck. I like the fact  that there are no houses behind us, just a pasture that is likely to be developed someday. As a lover of wildlife, I have enjoyed seeing deer in the pasture and in our yard.

Location. Location. Location. Our old house was in the suburbs. Almost everywhere we needed to go was within three miles of our house. Our current home is six miles or so from the grocery store and church and even farther from the gym and other businesses. I would like to be closer.

I’ve been looking at homes on Zillow and Realtor.com in anticipation of moving. I’ve talked to my husband a couple of times about the homes I like. He says we’re looking for different things.

Kent wants a home that is “cozy” like the home he grew up in. That house was small and outdated, and it’s definitely not my dream home. When Kent’s dad retired from farming, they moved into a newer home in town. I was so happy for my mother-in-law. Kent doesn’t mind a house that needs some work because you can personalize it to your taste. I would rather have a move-in ready home. In the past, we waited too long to remodel our country blue kitchen. Now, I’m too old, or maybe too spoiled, to wait years for what I want!

We lived in several old houses when I was growing up. My mother had a knack for making all our homes feel cozy. I prefer cozy to the starkness of some modern homes, but I don’t want to feel cramped. If there isn’t enough space, a home can easily become cluttered. Clutter disturbs my peace.

So what exactly is my dream home? No more than three levels, including the basement. Spacious master bedroom and kitchen. Two more bedrooms for guests. Space for all our books. A place to sit outside and drink a cup of coffee. Good lighting. And because we have cold winters and summer hail storms, a  two car garage is a must.

My favorite home on the market in our area, in our price range, checks off all my boxes. It has a shady front yard with a covered porch. It’s centrally located. It was built in 1948, but it has been updated. The living room and kitchen are spacious.  Upstairs, the bedrooms and bathroom have the slanted walls of a one and a half story home. That’s cozy.

For me, a dream home is one that makes both of us happy. Will my dream home be cozy enough for Kent but not too cramped for me?

Great news! Thank God!

You get some great, amazingly fantastic news. What’s the first thing you do?

The first thing I do when I get fantastic news is thank God. (If I don’t do this first, I really should.) I received long-anticipated, good news just this week. When I get good news, I want to share it.

I told my boss in September that I plan to retire in March. My job is compex. I had hoped that my replacement would be in place by the first of January, so he or she could work alongside me through the entire year-end process. That did not happen. The work can’t wait, so I have carried on as usual.

Here’s my great, amazingly fantastic news. A few weeks ago, my boss told me he interviewed a promising candidate. This week, he told me she starts on February 19th! Even better, she has experience in the industry and was recommended by a colleague.

I still have four weeks to train my replacement. Yesterday, I agreed to consult for three to six months to ensure a smooth transition.

Good news comes with emotions. Gratitude. Joy. Excitement. Relief. A burden has been lifted.

As a follower of Jesus, I have good news to share. The gospel literally means good news. Here is my great, amazingly fantastic news, good news that brings me joy. The burden of my sins was borne by Jesus. He replaced me on the cross.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us

Romans 5:8, NIV

Interests change over time

Are there any activities or hobbies you’ve outgrown or lost interest in over time?

I haven’t outgrown any activities or hobbies, but I have abandoned a couple due to waning interest. Last year, I gave up a hobby I enjoyed because it became too risky for me.

Many years ago, my husband and I bought bowling balls and bowling shoes. Bowling was going to be a fun activity to do together. The last time we bowled, I was frustrated with myself. I complained about not being good at it. My husband recalls suggesting that I take lessons. I got mad at him, then he got mad at me and it wasn’t fun anymore. Today, the balls and shoes sit abandoned in a closet.

A few years ago, I was interested in buying a ping pong table because we enjoy playing ping pong, and we have the space in our basement. Indecision about which table to buy eventually turned into lost interest. Sometimes waiting to buy something is a good thing. Now, we have plans to downsize.

For years, I enjoyed trail running. Last year, I fell and fractured my shoulder. It was a bad injury. Knowing that I’m likely to fall again and thinking, what if the next time I hit my head as hard as I hit my shoulder, led to my decision to give up trail running. Though I have to admit that my resolve was not strong enough. I tried trail running just a little bit a few months after my shoulder injury and tweaked my knee running on uneven ground. Okay, now I get it.

People give up hobbies because they outgrow them or lose interest. Sometimes, we become more interested in pursuing something else. Sometimes, giving something up is in the best interest of our relationships. Sometimes, it’s in our own best interest.

******

I skipped the daily prompt yesterday: What’s your favorite candy? I read some interesting posts about one of my favorites, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, and was reminded of the ad campaign from the 1970s. When I was a kid in the 70s, I usually chose Cherry Mash. I haven’t had one in years.

A permanent break

Do you need a break? From what?

I need a permanent break from being tied to my desk. I need a permanent break from the deadlines and demands that come with my job as an accountant. Federal information returns (1099s) are due at the end of January. A major regulatory filing deadline is March 1st. State tax filings are due between March 15th and April 15th. Meanwhile, the annual audit begins.

This is the last year I have to go through this stressful time of year. This is my last busy season! I have considered retiring before, but this year, I’m finally doing it. Woo hoo!

Yesterday, I got the good news that my replacement has been found. She will start in a couple of weeks, which leaves four weeks of training time.

The next several weeks will be busy and stressful. I will get through it just as I have before.

Thank you, God!

Personal computers

The most important invention in your lifetime is…

In the early 1980s, I took two computer programming classes for my business degree, including COBOL. We used old-fashioned punch cards to edit and run the programs. I remember visiting a computer lab that had personal computers, but access was restricted. In another class, I was introduced to an early Microsoft spreadsheet program called Multiplan.

Accountants did not use personal computers at my first job at a public accounting firm. Instead, we wrote the information needed to produce an income tax return on a form, and someone else would enter the data for the mainframe to process.

At my next job a few years later, personal computers were indispensable to my work as an accountant. Instead of writing transactions by hand on ledger paper or in ledger books as bookkeepers have done for centuries, we directly entered transactions into the general ledger system.

In the early days, I used the spreadsheet program Lotus 1-2-3. Eventually, we switched to Microsoft Excel. Spreadsheet software enables accountants to produce much better workpapers and to analyze huge volumes of data.

It’s hard for me to imagine what my career would have been like without personal computers. The work would have been tedious! I have been sitting in front of a PC for thirty-five plus years!