Innermost Being Blog

Leading by example

What makes a good leader?

Books have been devoted to the topic of leadership. I certainly can’t do it justice in a blog post. But I can share what I’ve learned in my nearly forty-year career, having worked for both good and bad leaders.

First, I think a good leader is someone who really wants to lead others. Not every personality is suited to a leadership role. I recognized early on that I didn’t want to manage other people.

Good leaders guide, inspire, and encourage. They bring the best out of people.

A good leader is a person of good character. A good keader does’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk. They are honest, fair, and respectful of others and have self-control.

A good leader has the self-confidence to make decisions but also has the humility to ask for help and to admit mistakes.

A good leader is competent. No one wants to be led by a person who doesn’t understand the business.

Good leaders listen. They know when to seek advice and are open to ideas.

Good leaders entrust others with responsibility and enable them to act. They resist the urge to micromanage.

Good leaders are committed to excellence and to holding people accountable for their actions.

Good leadership is important in any organization. Poor leaders make bad decisions and lose good employees.

Would it do any good to undo an invention?

If you could un-invent something, what would it be?

I would love to “un-invent” things that cause harm, like weapons and illicit drugs. But even if I could un-invent an object or a substance that destroys lives, would it do any good?

Would removing one harmful thing from our world change human behavior?

No, it wouldn’t.

Our world has many troubles and it isn’t because of things.

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

John 16:33, NIV

Faithful Love

Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved?

Just before I read this question, I opened my Bible app and read the verse of the day.

Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.

Deuteronomy 7:9

A covenant of love. A promise of love that never fails, love that never gives up. That’s God’s love.

God felt distant to me for years. I wasn’t going to church or reading my Bible. Then, something awful happened in my community, the Columbine High School mass shooting. This devastating example of evil made me turn to God, the source of all that is good. I found a church and felt God’s love surrounding me. I recommitted my life to Him.

God is faithful even when we aren’t. Just as he didn’t give up on the Israelites, He didn’t give up on me. He never left my side.

Prune out the thorns

Where can you reduce clutter in your life?

I associate the word clutter with disorder. I’m a fairly organized person. Clutter is a distraction to me. When things begin to look cluttered in my home, I tidy things up.

Our pastor for family ministries preached on Sunday because the senior pastor had just returned from a mission trip. Skyler had asked the senior pastor if he could use the sermon to introduce us to the practice of Lectio Divina.

Skyler began by explaining how valuable this practice is for hearing what God wants you to hear. Use silence to reflect on God’s word and to open yourself up to his voice.

The scripture for our sermon was the Parable of the Sower found in Matthew 13. I’ve read this parable many times, and it has been the subject of many sermons. Skyler read the parable to us a few times with increasing amounts of silence between the readings.

The first time, we just listened. After another reading, we were to pray and ask God if there was a word or phrase He wanted us to hear. The word that stuck out to me was thorns.

Thorns choke the word, making it unfruitful. I read the word but allow distractions to keep me from really hearing it.

Sometimes, we have to hear a message a few times before it finally sinks in. I’m hearing God tell me to tidy up my spiritual life. Prune out the thorns. Be still. Be silent. Hear my voice.

Lectio
Meditatio
Oratio
Contemplation

Read
Reflect
Respond
Rest

How can I choose just one?

What is your favorite animal?

I love, love, love animals. I don’t have a single favorite, so I’ll share a few photos of animals I love.

We live close to a state park where you can see bison, antelope, bighorn sheep, elk, and deer. Bison graze close to the road on the Wildlife Loop so you can view them close up. I especially love to visit the park in the spring to see bison calves, which are called “red dogs” because their hair is red. But don’t try to pet these furry cows!

There are a lot of deer in South Dakota. We live on the outskirts of town and deer frequently visit our yard or the pasture behind it. To see them up close, I look out a basement window.

White tail deer

The pasture behind our house is leased a few months a year for cattle. I don’t know why I like cows so much, but I do.

I’ve become a big fan of birds. In the winter, I most frequently see Eurasian collared doves, house sparrows, chickadees, dark-eyed juncos, and bluejays. Recently, we’ve been excited to see grouse.

Sharp-tailed grouse

I have always been drawn to cats. Cats have been part of our family since my husband and I married thirty-seven years ago.

❤️ ❤️😍💖

“what is mankind that you are mindful of them,
human beings that you care for them?
You have made them a little lower than the angels
and crowned them with glory and honor.
You made them rulers over the works of your hands;
you put everything under their feet:
all flocks and herds,
and the animals of the wild,
the birds in the sky,
and the fish in the sea,
all that swim the paths of the seas.‭‭”

Psalms‬ ‭8:4-8