Contentment

Earlier this year, a Day One prompt asked a really good question:

What positive emotion do you feel most often?

My normal emotional state is contentment. Contentment doesn’t mean that I have everything I want. Contentment doesn’t mean everything is going well in my life. Contentment is not dependent on the circumstances.

Daniel Cordaro asked, What if you pursued contentment rather than happiness? Cordaro quoted Dr. Dorji Wangchuk, who said that contentment is “the highest achievement of human well-being.”

Cordaro shared the origin of the word contentment.

The root of the word contentment comes from the Latin contentus, which means “held together” or “intact, whole.”

Contentus asks the question, “How whole do you feel inside? How complete are you as a human being?”

Daniel Cordaro

Cordaro and his team concluded that human beings use two strategies to achieve well-being – what they called a More Strategy and an Enough Strategy. The More Strategy is used by people who try to achieve happiness by getting more of something external – more money, more stuff, more recognition, etc.

King Solomon would surely have agreed that the “more strategy” is pointless. In the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon, a man of great wisdom, concluded that striving for wealth and achievement is meaningless, like chasing after the wind.

I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;
    I refused my heart no pleasure.
My heart took delight in all my labor,
    and this was the reward for all my toil.
Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done
    and what I had toiled to achieve,
everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;
    nothing was gained under the sun.

Ecclesiastes 2:10-11 (NIV)

People who find the source of well-being within themselves practice the Enough Strategy. Their lives have value regardless of wealth, social status, or achievement.

To be content means you have enough, regardless of what is going on around you. Contentment means being satisfied with your lot in life.

To be content regardless of circumstances, I process all the emotions I experience – good or bad – and find the strength within myself to manage them. Circumstances may get me down, but I can’t stay down. I change the circumstances if I can. I adjust my expectations. I practice gratitude. I never give up hope.

My source of well-being isn’t just within myself; I believe in a higher power. God has promised to work things out for the good of those who love him. I put my trust in him.

The Apostle Paul understood the “enough strategy.” He was beaten and imprisoned for spreading the gospel, yet learned to be content.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.

Philippians 4:11-12

I have been through some trials this year. I expect the next few years to be difficult. Even so, it is well with my soul. I am holding myself together. I have much to be thankful for. I have hope.

Change one ❤️

What change, big or small, would you like your blog to make in the world?

This is the kind of meaningful question I like. What difference do I want to make in the world by blogging?

I named my first blog, The Dirty Cup, a reflection of my desire, my need, to be changed on the inside. I want to have a clean heart. I do not want to be like the hypocrites that Jesus scolded.

Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean.

Matthew 23:25-26 (NIV)

Although I later abandoned that blog altogether, writing it changed me. Or I should say that God changed me. I grew spiritually.

I am still growing through this blog, Innermost Being. The title was inspired by King David, the psalmist. He wanted God to examine his heart and to change him.

Search me, God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting.

Psalm 139:23-24

Here’s what AI says about the words Innermost Being:

The term “innermost being” can refer to the core of a person’s being, or their inner self, which is the private, internal part of themselves that they usually don’t share with others. It can also refer to the deepest aspects of human nature, which are known only to God and are different from a person’s public image or outward appearance.

My outward appearance is not important.  What’s really important, as Jesus said, is my heart. Am I loving others as God loves me? Am I cultivating fruit of the Spirit? Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control?

I don’t expect my blog to change the world in a big way. I just hope that if I share my perspective on life, if I share my own struggles, I can soften one heart.

Retirement

How do you want to retire?

I retired just nine days ago.

I retire gratefully.

I’m grateful that I’m finally free, no longer bound to a desk, no longer worried about work responsibilities. Even when going on vacation, I could never really let my job go.

I’m grateful that my career has come to an end. When you are young, it’s hard to imagine working for forty or more years.

I’m grateful I was able to save money for retirement.

I’m grateful I left my job in good hands.

Work was a large part of my life, but it wasn’t my life.

I retire expectantly.

I look forward to retirement.

I’m excited to have more time for leisure. I’m excited to have more time for whatever I want to do, for whatever the Lord wants me to do.

For the first time in decades, I feel like a kid on summer break.

Tethered in a good way

What do you do to be involved in the community?

The hardest thing about moving to a new community is leaving the old one behind. There were things I didn’t like about Denver, Colorado, but in our thirty years there, we established connections in the community.

We all need connections. Being completely untethered can make one feel isolated and lonely.

Hobbies are a great way to get involved. When we moved to South Dakota four years ago, my husband and I joined the local running club. We meet other runners once a week to run together. We participate in races. My husband and I volunteer when we’re not running. I am now getting more involved, serving on the club’s board of directors.

When we moved, I immediately started looking for a new church home. Church isn’t just a place to worship God; it is a community of believers. I visited three churches and settled on the third one. It is much smaller than my suburban church, so I felt comfortable. It felt right.

When I expressed interest in being involved in my new church, it didn’t take long to get plugged in. I volunteer for the children’s ministry, helping teach kids in grade school. I joined a women’s Bible study group. I have found other opportunities, even something as simple as stuffing the weekly bulletin.

My church is involved in the larger community. Once a month, the church serves a meal at the local mission. A group of women volunteer at another charity. A few nights a week, the church provides a safe place for kids from the middle school across the street to go a couple of hours after school. My church also shows its love for these kids by serving hot dogs at the end of the school year.

The word untethered seems to be used more frequently than tethered. We like being free to do whatever we want to do. We think of being untethered as good, and being tethered is bad. A tether is a rope that binds an animal, restricting its movement.

I am not untethered. I am bound by common interests with other people. Having ties to other people is a good thing.

Dear old me

Write a letter to your 100-year-old self.

Dear old me,

I’m writing this at sixty, and I do not want to be a centenarian. If you are reading this letter, then God obviously had other plans.

Of course, it’s not up to me how long I live, except to the extent that healthy habits prolong my (our) life.

It was hard in our fifties to accept the physical signs of aging. I hope you are comfortable in your skin, no matter how wrinkly it is. 

Remember that time in our forties when we were tutoring at the middle school and a kid said, “Hey, old lady!” We had a good laugh at that. Kent loved that story.

I expect that you are far wiser than your sixty-year old self, so I have only one piece of advice for you. Let other people help you. I know you want to be independent, but you aren’t as strong physically as you once were. Remember how much Cindy loved caring for the elderly?

I am sorry for all the losses you’ve experienced. I can’t know who you will outlive, but at 100, you’ve outlived so many loved ones. You miss them. I don’t even want to think about it.

As I look ahead to my later years, I pray that I will make a difference in the lives of many people. I pray that I will have an inner beauty that doesn’t fade with time. That’s how I imagine you, a gentle and quiet spirit.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

1 Peter 3:4-5

Finally, I want to thank you. It may be weird to thank yourself, but being thought weird never stopped us. Thank you for caring about other people. You are just an ordinary person, but I just know you will be remembered fondly for being kind.

Love, me.